I can’t tell you how many times my “good intentions” have blown up in my face. Throughout my life there has been a pattern of me “trying to help” that has been met with confusion, frustration and even flat out anger.
Maybe you can relate?
I’m the type of person that can’t see a need and not attempt to meet it or a problem and not try to solve it. I love hard. Part of my love is expressed through going out of my way to do things for people without them asking and/or speaking up & saying the hard thing no one else wants to say.
In both those examples, and maybe you do this too, my help wasn’t asked for. It wasn’t wanted but I saw the need & couldn’t help myself but to try and fix it. Often, there in lies the problem.
What I have found as I’ve fallen flat on my face over & over in attempt to love people is sometimes people don’t want the kind of love you have to offer.
Not everyone wants love that comes with truth.
Not everyone wants someone to show up with a helping hand they didn’t ask for… or better yet, can’t control.
Not everyone wants you to get involved because sometimes, getting involved makes a situation more complicated. When you attempt to solve a problem, the option for sweeping it under the rug no longer exists.
I know Jesus felt this same opposition when He walked the earth. He was misunderstood by The Pharisees, The Jews in general, The Romans and more. Pretty much everyone He came in contact with didn’t “get Him”.
The funny thing is that Jesus is the most honest, pure and loving being to ever walk the planet. Yet, people misunderstood Him. Some even went so far as to say He was demon possessed. So, the question we need to ask ourselves is, if Jesus – with His perfect intentions- was misunderstood, why wouldn’t we be too?
Why we would not face opposition when loving people? People today have the same kinds of hurts & hang ups they did in Jesus day. Those pains often blinded people to the reality of who Jesus was. Just like they do for us.
You can do something with the most pure intention – like Jesus preaching salvation through Him alone for example – yet still be faced with anger & hatred. Some people just don’t get it. They didn’t “get” Jesus so they may not get you. And- the even harder truth – They may not want your help.
Many people reject the free gift of salvation through Christ. They want love but they don’t want it unless they can prove they deserve it.
Some people will look at your intentions & stomp all over them. They will name call, accuse and demean you. Not because you did anything wrong but because they misunderstand why you’re doing what you’re doing.
If we can come to a place where we accept that we may be misunderstood & firmly plant our identity in Christ – then the storms of accusation & anger won’t have control over us.
It would be easy to retreat. It would be easy to say “Forget this. I tried to help & THIS is what I get for it?” No more helping. No thank you.
But Jesus didn’t stop loving people when they misunderstood Him. So, neither can we. We may need to change our approach. We may need to adjust some boundaries but we can learn to love people without living under the fear of man and the fear of rejection.
There are so many times I’ve wanted to fall back. Move away from the front lines. Stop serving. Stop giving. Stop caring.
People are messy. Relationships are hard. But Jesus died because He saw a relationship with us to be worth it. So, what do you say? Even if you are misunderstood, would you love people anyway? Would you keep your heart open when it feels safer to shut people out? Will you join me in living free from the fear of man so you can live in the fullness of Christ’s love?
Love is a beautiful thing. Don’t give up on it.
♥️🕊 Beloved Rejoice